So many strings attached or is there only one... the one called 'Love'?
ok..let me get straight to the point here... i am not talking about relationships we have when we are together in the same town... when we can meet each other every now and then...what I am talking about here is when we are not in the same town and the only means of contact is the phone or webcam... what happens then... how far does the string get streched and how long will it hold?
I have been talking to my friends who are here in the US with me and have their boyfriends/girlfriends back home in India... and they keep telling me about how things are between them... then I was talking to some of my friends who are single and who are the spectators, like me and it got me thinking...
Well there are the good times and the bad in all relationships...but when it comes to the long distance...its a whole different ball game...its like a test that life puts you thru... a test of your love and understanding for each other...
You don't know what is going on in your partners life...all you know is what they tell you. You call them everyday...talk about things that happened in the day and maybe a few other things and then you get back to your daily chores. What if you don't call them for a couple of days? Will they understand? Will they believe you when you try to reason?
Why do you talk to your better half everyday, maybe even twice a day? Is it because, you miss them or is it because you think that if you don't call them regularly they might forget about you..?? tough question and a mean one too... i agree; but it is just something that came up when discussing about this topic with a friend...
Long Distance Relationships (LDR), can do 2 things...1. Destroy your relationship by creating all the possible misunderstandings or 2. Make your relationship so strong, that nothing in this world can come in between you. I hope all my friends find that LDRs lead them to point #2.
There are so many things that go wrong... you have fights and cannot go over to the others place to talk about it... you may have to wait for days before you hear the voice of your loved one after a fight... but the one who has hung up and not talking doesn't realize what chaos is going on in the others mind, who is so far away from home... its very critical, for the person back home to understand the mind set of the person here... coz this is a mean land... no one is anyone's here... unless you have friends to comfort you, you are all by yourself and even after that at the end of the day you are left all alone with your thoughts... its the scariest feeling of not being able to talk to that one person who means so much to you... this is where your mutual understanding is tested...
But that doesn't mean that only one person does all the understanding... it shouldn't happen that only one of you is making all the adjustments... and at the same time convincing him/herself that things are going to be ok... thats not fair either...why should just one of you go thru this ordeal... Love is about sharing and I feel even this feeling has to be shared...
Its very difficult to understand whats going in a persons mind, when you can't see their face... you can tell a lot from a persons facial expressions during a conversation...
You spend time with your local friends... go out..party, have fun...and then all of a sudden you feel guilty about all the good times that you have had without your loved one with you... is this right? I don't think it is... coz you are allowed to live your life... thats what love is... love is letting go... and not holding on... letting go and trusting that your love will return... as it was always... with new stories to tell... new experiences to share...
There is a lot more that one can write here.... may be i will return and continue... till then...think about it... enjoy your life even if your loved one is not with you... it doesn't mean that you have stopped loving them...or that your love for each other has become any less... all it means is that you are living your part of your life... think of it like this... it will give you a little more to talk about on the next phone call... it will add those lovely 10 mins to the call that goes on for hours... it will just say that.... I miss you, I love you... and so I am living my life to the fullest... coz it makes me happy to see you happy... and when both are happy...there is no place for doubts and misunderstandings...
Like one of my friend says... Life is only as simple as you make it :) Fall in love people... over the seven seas .... its a very strong string... it won't break that easily....
ok..let me get straight to the point here... i am not talking about relationships we have when we are together in the same town... when we can meet each other every now and then...what I am talking about here is when we are not in the same town and the only means of contact is the phone or webcam... what happens then... how far does the string get streched and how long will it hold?
I have been talking to my friends who are here in the US with me and have their boyfriends/girlfriends back home in India... and they keep telling me about how things are between them... then I was talking to some of my friends who are single and who are the spectators, like me and it got me thinking...
Well there are the good times and the bad in all relationships...but when it comes to the long distance...its a whole different ball game...its like a test that life puts you thru... a test of your love and understanding for each other...
You don't know what is going on in your partners life...all you know is what they tell you. You call them everyday...talk about things that happened in the day and maybe a few other things and then you get back to your daily chores. What if you don't call them for a couple of days? Will they understand? Will they believe you when you try to reason?
Why do you talk to your better half everyday, maybe even twice a day? Is it because, you miss them or is it because you think that if you don't call them regularly they might forget about you..?? tough question and a mean one too... i agree; but it is just something that came up when discussing about this topic with a friend...
Long Distance Relationships (LDR), can do 2 things...1. Destroy your relationship by creating all the possible misunderstandings or 2. Make your relationship so strong, that nothing in this world can come in between you. I hope all my friends find that LDRs lead them to point #2.
There are so many things that go wrong... you have fights and cannot go over to the others place to talk about it... you may have to wait for days before you hear the voice of your loved one after a fight... but the one who has hung up and not talking doesn't realize what chaos is going on in the others mind, who is so far away from home... its very critical, for the person back home to understand the mind set of the person here... coz this is a mean land... no one is anyone's here... unless you have friends to comfort you, you are all by yourself and even after that at the end of the day you are left all alone with your thoughts... its the scariest feeling of not being able to talk to that one person who means so much to you... this is where your mutual understanding is tested...
But that doesn't mean that only one person does all the understanding... it shouldn't happen that only one of you is making all the adjustments... and at the same time convincing him/herself that things are going to be ok... thats not fair either...why should just one of you go thru this ordeal... Love is about sharing and I feel even this feeling has to be shared...
Its very difficult to understand whats going in a persons mind, when you can't see their face... you can tell a lot from a persons facial expressions during a conversation...
You spend time with your local friends... go out..party, have fun...and then all of a sudden you feel guilty about all the good times that you have had without your loved one with you... is this right? I don't think it is... coz you are allowed to live your life... thats what love is... love is letting go... and not holding on... letting go and trusting that your love will return... as it was always... with new stories to tell... new experiences to share...
There is a lot more that one can write here.... may be i will return and continue... till then...think about it... enjoy your life even if your loved one is not with you... it doesn't mean that you have stopped loving them...or that your love for each other has become any less... all it means is that you are living your part of your life... think of it like this... it will give you a little more to talk about on the next phone call... it will add those lovely 10 mins to the call that goes on for hours... it will just say that.... I miss you, I love you... and so I am living my life to the fullest... coz it makes me happy to see you happy... and when both are happy...there is no place for doubts and misunderstandings...
Like one of my friend says... Life is only as simple as you make it :) Fall in love people... over the seven seas .... its a very strong string... it won't break that easily....
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